What I Find Sexy

I was thinking about common threads women seem to have about what they find sexy in a man. We all have different types we like, both physical and personality-wise, but there seem to be a few common themes. Themes that pop up persistently in romance writing.

Like being able to trust someone, knowing he has your back, knowing that he's bright enough to know when something is wrong, etc. And it doesn't hurt when a guy who finds you totally sexy and can't get you out of his head.

And NO whiners. I like people who take responsibility for themselves and make their own way in life. It's damned attractive when someone understands we all have challenges, but persistently works around them, through them, over them. Whatever it takes to get where he wants to go. I like guys who have strong personalities, who have great bullshit detectors and are natural leaders. I get bored too easily otherwise.

I guess I like an alpha males, but with brains and sensitivity. Ones that prefer strong women. Ones that prefer a little spark and flash.

So that's what I strive for in my male characters when I write. I like a little angst, interesting character traits, obstacles, rah rah rah, but the basic traits of my guys tend to be the same for me. Because it is just so damned hot when a women walks in and takes somebody that strong, intelligent and used to having his way straight to his knees. :-)

Oh yeah.